09/17/2026
Back-to-school season is here - and for co-parents, that means new schedules, school drop-offs, homework battles, and a whole new set of questions.
But a lot of what parents “know” about co-parenting during the school year is actually myth. Let’s clear a few up:
Myth: “The custody schedule doesn’t change just because school started.”
Fact: School schedules often
require a modification. If your parenting plan was built around daycare or preschool hours, it may no longer work once your child starts elementary school - different pickup times, school breaks, and activities all need to be accounted for.
Myth: “I have to do school pickup on my days, even if it’s a huge burden.”
Fact: You and your co-parent can
agree on a schedule that works for both of you - you don’t have to follow the old one forever. If you both agree, you can modify the plan without going to court, as long as it’s in your child’s best interest.
Myth: “If my ex misses a pickup, I can just withhold the child.”
Fact: Withholding parenting time is generally
not a good idea - it can backfire legally and hurt your case. Document the missed time, and address it through the proper channels instead.
Myth: “Extracurriculars are optional - I don’t have to pay for them.”
Fact: If activities were part of your
parenting plan or you agreed to them, they may be considered part of the child’s needs. Talk to your attorney about how activities factor into child support and expenses.
Myth: “The school has to follow our custody schedule for pickups.”
Fact: Schools generally follow the
custody order on file - but they also need clear communication. Make sure your school has a copy of your current parenting plan, and that both parents are listed on emergency contacts and pickup lists.
Every co-parenting situation is different, and the school year brings its own challenges. If you’re navigating a schedule change, a disagreement, or just want clarity on your rights, we’re here to help.
Reach out for a consultation.