08/21/2026
BACK TO SCHOOL CHECKLIST FOR DIVORCED PARENTS
1. Be involved.
It’s a busy time, getting back into the swing of things. The routine for kids of divorced parents can be complicated and overwhelming at first, particularly if children have split time in two homes. There’s a lot of moving parts. The more in the game you are, the better you are able to anticipate needs, outline expectations and control chaos, and the more secure your child will feel. Active, engaged parents build connection by sharing school experiences with their children; they also present more favorably should custody modification ever be considered. So go to open houses, teacher conferences, special events and ordinary ones too. Even the everyday, small moments are big ones to your kids.
2. Make sure the school has a copy of your parenting plan.
Don’t assume the other parent has provided one. Be proactive. Having a clear outline regarding custody, one that explicitly details your rights and parenting time, should help minimize issues surrounding access to your child as it relates to school time and information. If allowed per your parenting plan, for example, you will want to be able to pick up your child from school or be a guest at story time or lunch time, if so desired, as well as have access to report cards, grades and any school communications.
3. Connect with teachers.
Teachers are the direct line to your child. Check in with them early and often to update them on any changes and receive crucial feedback on your child’s progress. Open communication helps ensure teachers can support your child in the best possible way and you can, likewise, help your child navigate any school-related issues as needed.
4. Establish and execute an action plan with your co-parent.
Managing school schedules, supplies, activities and responsibilities requires dedication, cooperation, practice and patience. Communication and consistency are keys to success. Make sure you discuss what your child needs, both physically and emotionally, and have a plan in place to handle any mishaps. For example, how will you handle if (when!) books, electronics, or uniforms are left at the other parent’s house; what are expectations for homework and studying, grades, and behavior. Establish a united front and put systems in place to facilitate success, which might include checklists, rewards and consequences; then discuss things clearly with your kids.
5. Most importantly, watch and listen to your kids.
In the beginning of the year, especially, it can be exhausting for kids (and parents!) to get reacclimated to the school schedule. Prioritize health, nutrition and sleep, and look for signs to tell you how your child is adjusting and if he/she may be struggling. Allow some time to settle into a new routine, but also seek support if needed, including for yourself, if you feel additional resources can help ease a situation and set your family up for success.
6. Have fun!
Be positive and instill a love of learning in your children. These years fly by fast. Try to embrace the chaos, practice and model patience when feeling frustrated or overwhelmed with schedules and responsibilities, and enjoy this time of learning and exploration as you watch your kids grow🤗
YOU GOT THIS!
