04/05/2023
Confidence issues? Confidence regarding what?
There is no such thing as 'confidence' as a general term. Confidence is context-specific.
Let me explain...
Let's say you're a highly-skilled pilot.
And after years of aviation training and experience in the art of flying a plane...
You're as confident as it gets on the job. You're tops in your field and you know it.
Then one day, just after you left the ground...
You see that a terrorist has left a nuclear suitcase bomb in the plane!
There's 2 minutes until it blows.
Meaning there's no time to land and get the bomb squad.
You open the suitcase and see a bunch of wires and parts.
Your confidence drops to ZERO as you realise that you're clueless in this situation.
Your heart starts to race, and a salty sweat drip down your head.
Suddenly...
One of the passengers sees what you're doing, and comes to help you.
He calmly reaches into the device, turns a dial, and pulls a wire. The timer on the device stops.
He doesn't even look scared at all!
In fact, he looks EXTREMELY CONFIDENT.
You ask him how he knew how to stop the bomb, and he proudly says:
"I designed this weapon. I worked for 25 years at a federal nuclear weapons laboratory. Turning it off is child's play."
Now... you're still in shock.
Your heart is still racing, and the stress hasn't gone away yet.
All of a sudden, you have a heart attack and stop breathing.
The nuclear bomb technician has no medical training whatsoever.
Not even a first aid course!
Suddenly, HIS confidence drops to ZERO as he realizes that he's clueless and powerless in this situation.
He calls for help.
The above story illustrates my point: There's no such thing as a "confident" person.
Only a person confident in areas he's very familiar with.
You should have a lack of confidence for things you don't understand.
If you have no experience in dealing with something, rest assured you won't be confident about it!
This is true with EVERYTHING in life.
If you're experiencing nervousness or a lack of confidence when approaching women.
It's because you don't have enough experience in dealing with them.
No hypnosis audiobook... No affirmation program... nor Neuro-Linguistic Program trick will give you instant confidence.
Because confidence is bred from familiarity.
Get to work.
