01/26/2022
In my many decades of practicing law, no one ever has said to me, “You don’t look like a lawyer.” I can’t be sure, but I have a suspicion that it’s because I am white, male, older, nicely groomed, usually well-attired, dignified, stately—OK, I'm getting a little carried away. Stay with white, male, and maybe older. (I still cling to the well-attired bit.) Chances are that but for the first two, I would have experienced the “don’t look like” comment somewhere along the line. Of course, from my generationally-handicapped vantage point, many lawyers these days don’t look like lawyers, partly because of the real pandemic in this country: the compulsion to look as carelessly casual as possible, supposedly the mark of . . . cool. (Long, long ago but in my lifetime, “cool” was so exquisite a word that it required no elaboration.)
Another reason that many lawyers don’t look like lawyers to me is that most of them are younger than my children. Heck, about half the judges are younger than my children—but they do seem really smart. But I digress from the real “You don’t look like a lawyer” story, that of our colleagues who are not white or not male. I recently ran across this delightful article—perhaps you did as well—titled, “You Don’t Look Like a Lawyer.” (Link below.) It not only provides good advice about responding to such a comment but also, perhaps incidentally, great advice on navigating life. It is full of nuggets, like “take up space,” remaining calm, not taking such comments personally, and saying “this is what a lawyer looks like.” As for living a life with serenity: “I can’t control the actions of others, but I can control my reaction.” The author, Ms. Hardrick, has nailed it. I would retain her any time.
Recently, I watched the very popular Netflix movie Red Notice, starring Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. If you’re unfamiliar with The Rock, his name is well-earned. He is a former professional wrestler, and he has huge muscles to show for it. In the movie, he plays an FBI profiler who specializes i...