05/05/2026
I want to tell you about a moment at my mom's kitchen bar that I'm still processing.
You know that spot in your house where the real conversations happen? For me, it's been my mom's kitchen bar for as long as I can remember. Me on the barstool, her chopping vegetables or stirring something on the stove. That's where life gets sorted out.
I was being really vulnerable that night. Working through my financial goals, trying to figure out what I wanted my life to look like. And I shared the big, scary, audacious goal I'd been sitting with:
"Mom, I want to generate $50,000 per month in passive income."
She stopped what she was doing. Looked at me with that serious, loving, matter-of-fact expression every mom has. And said:
"That's not big enough. You should probably make it $100,000 a month."
I was flabbergasted.
Here I was, being so vulnerable, sharing what felt like this massive goal — and she made it sound piddly. Not thought out enough.
Here's why she said it: her own goal had been $10,000 a month. She blew through it earlier than expected. And realized it didn't go nearly as far as she'd thought.
So she wanted me to dream bigger from the start.
I've decided to keep my $50k/month goal until I hit it. THEN I'll raise it. Because we have to actually meet our targets, not keep moving them.
But the lesson stuck with me: the goal you're afraid to say out loud is probably still too small.
I write about the full reverse-engineering of that goal, including the math and the version I had to throw out — in this week's Never Go Broke article: https://ameliamisenheimer.substack.com/p/i-reverse-engineered-my-50kmonth
Who in your life pushes you to dream bigger?