07/19/2026
Hard Truths about Family Court ⚖️👩🏼💼
1. Your attorney is probably not taking your calls and answering your texts on the weekend.
Courthouses are closed, judges are out, and we are spending time with our own families. There is nothing we are going to be able to do for you on a weekend that will have any immediate effect, anyway. The judge is not going to look at your petition for contempt on a Saturday. We are not driving to your exchange.
2. The work isn’t free.
When you retain an attorney, you sign a fee agreement that explains how legal services will be billed. Most attorneys require an upfront retainer because unpaid balances can become difficult to collect—particularly when clients are disappointed with the outcome of their case, which is not uncommon in family law. It’s important to remember that emails, phone calls, meetings, and other communications typically require attorney time and are billed accordingly. If you contact your attorney frequently, your retainer will be depleted more quickly, and you may be responsible for replenishing it as your case progresses.
3. Child support is set by utilizing a formula.
The judge will use a worksheet that computes a number based upon factors such as both parties’ income, nights spent with each parent, and costs associated with the child’s portion of medical coverage and childcare. It doesn’t matter what attorney you hire or how much you complain—the numbers are what they are.
4. The system is designed to promote the rights of parents, even when contrary to the preferences of the children.
Often, kids do have a more involved parent. That isn’t typically enough to rebut the presumption of 50/50 custody. Even when there are limiting factors, the court will impose limits that still permit the parent to have parenting time with the child. Family court judges do not terminate parental rights, that is a function of circuit courts. The overarching goal of family court is to promote meaningful relationships between children and both parents, with an emphasis on maximizing parenting time for both parents.