10/08/2024
Going to Court: Understanding the Basics
Going through a family law case can be tough, especially when you're already dealing with a lot of stress and emotions. It's normal to feel lost and unsure about what's coming next. That's why we've put together this guide to help you understand what to expect in a Texas family law court.
Just a heads up: this guide isn't meant to replace legal advice from a lawyer. It's always a good idea to talk to a family law attorney, about any specific legal questions you might have.
How you should dress when attending court (in-person or virtually)
At some point during your case, you or the other party will need to see the Judge. This happens even if you both agree on everything.
What to Wear
It's important to dress right for court. Keep it clean, neat, and pressed. For guys, a suit or nice pants with a collared shirt works well. Ladies, go for a suit, dress, skirt, or pants that aren't too tight or revealing. Avoid shorts, t-shirts, sunglasses, or hats. Also, try not to go overboard with makeup, jewelry, or fancy hairstyles. If you're not sure what to wear, just ask your lawyer what's best for your specific courtroom.
How to Act
Remember, a court hearing or trial is serious business. Remember the old saying about first impressions? You absolutely want to show the judge that you have yourself together. Everyone needs to be on their best behavior in the courtroom. Always show respect to the judge and court staff.
When you walk into the courtroom, turn off anything that makes noise - watches, phones and if you still have a pager, that too. Leave the snacks, drinks, and gum outside, unless there is a medical necessity. You can't bring in magazines, newspapers, or other reading material either. Once the judge comes in, no talking, whispering, or passing notes and this pertains to virtual court hearings also.
When it's your turn to speak in court, take a deep breath and remember you've got this. Speak up clearly and politely so everyone can hear you, especially the judge and court reporter. No need for head nods or shakes - use your words. When talking to the judge, a simple "Your Honor," "Sir," or "Ma'am" goes a long way. For everyone else, stick with "Mr.," "Mrs.," or "Ms." - even if it's your best friend.
Here's a tough one: even if someone says something that gets under your skin or seems wrong, bite your tongue. Your time to speak will come. If a lawyer objects while you're talking, just pause until the judge decides what to do next. Feeling confused? It's okay to ask for clarification. Need a tissue, water, or a quick break? Just ask nicely. The court understands you're human too.
Bringing Your Support Team
Friends and Witnesses - Courts are generally open to the public, so feel free to bring along anyone who'll have your back - family, friends, even your local pastor. If they're not testifying, they can stay and watch. Witnesses? They'll need to wait outside until it's their turn to speak. No chatting about the case while they wait, but they can bring a book or magazine to pass the time.
Kids - As much as we love them, the courthouse isn't really a place for little ones. Even if the case is about them, leave them at home unless you’ve been instructed otherwise or by the judge. If you absolutely can't avoid bringing them, make sure you've got a responsible adult to watch them outside the courtroom. Court's not exactly kid-friendly and the subject matter, are not for children’s ears.
In rare cases, the judge might want to talk to the kids. But don't worry, there are special ways to do this outside of the regular court hearing. Your lawyer can tell you if your kids need to say anything for your case.
Remember, you're not alone in this. It's okay to feel nervous but try to stay calm. The court is there to help sort things out, not to make you feel bad. Just be honest, respectful, and follow these simple guidelines. You've got this!
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