11/04/2020
🤨 Can’t make a decision on who will be guardian for your kids?
It’s a pretty big choice, after all.
You and your spouse love your children more than anything.
But you feel that Uncle John is the best fit, while your spouse feels Aunt June would be better for your kids.
A whole lot of emotion is tied to this decision, and you both feel strongly about your opinions.
Want to know how to get “unstuck” and get the decision made quickly?
Take a piece of paper, split it in two.
Write one guardian candidate’s name on one piece, and the other name on the other piece.
Put the two pieces of paper in a hat and get someone else to draw a name for you.
Or you could flip a penny. Or play rock-paper-scissors, you get the picture.
The point here is to have something else make that quick decision for you.
And here’s what’ll happen: over the course of a few days, you both have to think about whether you are really okay with that choice.
Align your values with the person(s) who are best able to love your child/children according to your values.
And if you’re agonizing over it, then you can have a conversation about it. But if you’ve come to terms about it and forgotten all about the squabble, then chances are, you’re happy with the choice that has been made.
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