08/21/2023
Common law marriage, also known as informal marriage, is still valid in Texas, much to the dismay of many probate judges and attorneys. What is so bad about it? Here is an all-too-common scenario:
Jack and Pat live together in Pat’s house. They are in a relationship, but they aren’t married. At least one of them has been divorced and they don’t want to go through that again. Pat has two adult children who get along with Jack well enough. Jack has always said if something happens to Pat, Jack will leave the house voluntarily. Pat passes away. Instead of moving out, Jack padlocks all of the doors and refuses to leave. Jack then hires an attorney to file affidavits signed by two of Jack’s friends confirming that Pat and Jack told the friends they were married. Jack seeks to validate the marriage in court because of the right of the surviving spouse to live in the homestead for life, even if the spouse doesn’t own an interest in the house. Pat’s children spend the next 18 months battling this out in court, spending a substantial amount of money on hearings, mediation, and court costs.
On the flip side:
Jack and Pat live together and consider themselves to be married, but never got a marriage license. Pat has been clear that Jack should stay in the house for life, but doesn’t prepare a Will or Transfer on Death Deed. Pat becomes very ill. The kids tell the hospital that Pat is not married and successfully keep Jack out of the hospital room. After Pat passes, they file an application to determine Pat’s heirs that lists Pat as single with the intention of evicting Jack from the house. Jack produces witnesses to confirm they did intend to be married and the kids produce witnesses to confirm Pat was not married. Court battle ensues (assuming Jack can afford to fight).
Compare this to:
Jack and Pat go to the courthouse to apply for a marriage certificate. They have a ceremony and get a marriage license. Pat dies. Jack gets to live in the house for life and receives the spouse’s share of Pat’s estate. This scenario could still be improved by a well-drafted estate plan, but is generally far less messy and costly than a fight over common law marriage.
Given that common law marriage is still valid in Texas, what can be done? Your friendly neighborhood estate planning attorney can offer far more certainty than family meetings ever will.
1. A full estate plan with a Will, Durable Power of Attorney, Medical Power of Attorney, Declaration of Guardian, Appointment of Agent for Disposition of Remains, and possibly a Transfer on Death Deed or Living Trust depending on the circumstances. This maximizes an individual’s ability to control who can manage their affairs if needed, who is in charge of the estate, who gets what from the estate, and everyone’s respective rights.
2. A cohabitation agreement for couples who do not intend to be married. A well-drafted cohabitation agreement can lay out various rights and document the fact that the couple does not intend to enter into an informal marriage.
3. A prenuptial agreement or postnuptial agreement a/k/a marital agreement or separate property agreement can outline spouse’s rights with respect to separate property and income. Through these agreements, spouses can also waive certain rights, like the right to live in the homestead for life, which can be quite a complicated and contentious situation if the kids are not on board.
4. File a formal common law marriage declaration with the county clerk in accordance with the Family Code. (Or just get a marriage certificate!) Importantly, there is no such thing as “common law divorce” in Texas. A court divorce is still required to terminate the marriage.
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