04/28/2026
When Opposing Counsel Sends a “Nastygram”
By. Angela Evans
Some attorneys don’t want to put in the work to argue the facts and the law, so they send a quick nastygram email. Sometimes they know the facts don’t support what they’re asking for, and the law doesn’t either. So instead of making a reasoned legal argument, they resort to another tactic: ranting, raving, and hollering like a toddler—hoping someone eventually gives in out of sheer exhaustion.
Personal attacks from opposing counsel—statements like “I despise the way you practice law,” “you’re just wasting the parties’ money,” or even “you’re crazy”—are usually a sign of something else entirely. They often reflect an inability to explain how your attorney’s conduct violates an ethical rule or legal standard. Because if there were a real ethical issue, the argument would sound very different. It would cite a specific rule or case and say, “You can’t do X because of Y.” End of story.
Instead, when emails dissolve into insults, it’s often because your attorney is doing exactly what they should be doing—advocating effectively. When the other side has no solid argument left, they sometimes grasp at straws and turn to personal attacks.
The moral of the story:
A nastygram from an out-of-control opposing attorney is often a signal that your lawyer is holding firm on your behalf, and the other side doesn’t have a strong legal argument to make. Let your attorney handle it—and don’t take it personally. In fact, when you see that your attorney is keeping his or her cool, stating accurate facts, referring to statutes and cases that apply to your exact circumstances, you may just want to smile and recognize the strength of your position and counsel.
Disclaimer
This article is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Reading this article or contacting the author does not create an attorney–client relationship. Legal matters are fact-specific, and readers should consult a qualified attorney regarding their own situation before taking or refraining from any action.