Off The Record Mediation Services LLC

08/27/2025

How Long Does Divorce Take in California?
Wondering how much time it takes to finalize a divorce in California? This video breaks down the mandatory six-month waiting period, factors that speed up or delay the process, and the difference between uncontested vs. contested divorces.

✅ Topics Covered:

California’s six-month minimum waiting period

Uncontested divorce timelines

Tips to avoid unnecessary delays

📌 Whether you’re just starting the process or in the middle of it, this guide will help you understand what to expect.

https://youtu.be/JBRH1miR4Vc

How Long Does Divorce Take in California?Wondering how much time it takes to finalize a divorce in California? This video breaks down the mandatory six-month...

08/21/2025

Can you keep the house jointly after divorce? Should you?

In this video, we cover the key things to consider before deciding to co-own the marital home with your ex.

You’ll learn:
✅ Legal agreements needed for joint ownership after divorce
✅ Risks of co-owning and how to protect yourself

This guide is for anyone navigating divorce property division, real estate decisions, and divorce settlements. Before you commit to keeping the home jointly, make sure you understand the long-term pros and cons.

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Should you keep the house jointly after divorce? In this video, we cover the key things to consider before deciding to co-own the marital home with your ex.Y...

08/09/2025

Is amicable divorce possible?

BIG YES. Not only is it possible, but there is an entire industry of collaboratively trained professionals that can help you accomplish your goals.

Did you know there’s a whole industry of collaboratively trained professionals dedicated to helping couples achieve an amicable divorce? Learn how collaborat...

03/16/2023

Mediation is one of best options for resolving issues relating to your divorce, separation or custody dispute, but the process can be very mysterious.

Every mediator is different, but here is a general overview of my divorce mediation process.

A detailed look at my divorce mediation process. My name is Dori Goikhman, and I'm a divorce attorney and certified mediator, licensed to practice in Califor...

01/13/2023

Thank you to everyone who participated in our Reddit AMA. Wow, what a turnout. So many questions, and over 17,000 views and counting!

All of this interest tells me there is still so much to demystify about the mediation process. I'm so glad to be a part of that.

It's been really great answering all of your questions, but I am merely a mortal. I'm slowly working through remaining questions, and there are still new questions coming in. I will try to answer a few a day until the post popularity dies down.

- Dori

Hi all, My name is Dori Goikhman, and I'm a certified mediator and divorce attorney. I'm licensed to practice in California, New York, and New...

01/11/2023

What's the number one mistake I see in mediation?

01/06/2023

Mental preparation is key to a successful outcome in mediation. When I'm advising clients in mediation, I ask them to consider all of the following questions:

1. What does an ideal outcome look like? (if there are multiple issues, consider each issue specifically and separately)
2. What is an acceptable outcome (again, if there are multiple issues, consider each issue separately)
3. Is there any information that you feel you need to know prior to your session? Is there any information you can try to obtain during the mediation session?
4. What does your future look like if you cannot settle this case? Think specifically about the short-term, medium-term, and long-term costs. Are there any non-financial costs to consider, such as emotional energy, stress, and time? What about the financial costs?

Prior to mediation, it's a good idea to work through these questions as specifically as possible with a coach, attorney, or even at trusted friend.

No one can guarantee a successful mediation. There are simply too many factors outside of your control. But asking yourself these questions and coming into mediation with a plan is much more likely to result in an outcome that you can find acceptable.

11/10/2022

Interested in learning more about conflict resolution? I was interviewed by The Confident Retirement Podcast with Kris Flammang and Mark Picchi. Learn about what mediation is, how it works, and how a mediated divorce can save time money and stress over a litigated divorce.

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5tZWdhcGhvbmUuZm0vdGhlY29uZmlkZW50cmV0aXJlbWVudA

07/29/2022

Create peace✌️

07/29/2022

Family is forever, and you will most likely be forever tied to your coparent. Mediation allows co-parents to work together to design a parenting plan that takes into account their unique family situation. Litigation is stressful on children, while mediation can be an excellent first step to alleviating that stress.

03/17/2021

$7,700 for 5 years of unpaid labor 🤔

The landmark case has sparked debate as it shines a spotlight on housewives' unpaid labour.