01/12/2023
Want to help your kids? Choose Collaborative Divorce.
Divorce is hard at the best of times, and when kids are involved it is even harder. Your first, gut instinct, when you decide you want to file for divorce, or that your spouse has filed, might be that you want to hurt them in the way that they've hurt you. But wait, you have children. Those babies that you have done everything in your power since the day they were born to always do what is in their best interest. Your spouse is, and will always be, the other parent of of your children. Give your kids the best gift you can possibly give them: an example they can be proud of. Your divorce is going to be completed at some point in time. Maybe it's 3 months from now, maybe 6 months, maybe a year, but you are going to have to co-parent with your spouse for the rest of your life. It doesn't end when your children are 18. Your kids are going to graduate from high school and college, maybe there will be weddings to plan and attend, and maybe there will be grandchildren in your future. Think about how you want to experience those events moving forward. Think about how your children will want to experience those events moving forward. Think about how you want your children to reflect on their childhood and their experiences with you growing up. What would you like your children to say about you on their wedding day about the way you worked with your spouse to raise them. Do you want your children to come to you freely and ask you to be a part of their major milestones, or do you want them to hesitate because they worry about what those milestones are going to be like, or how they will be ruined if both of their parents are there. It's a lot to think about during a time that is already wrought with emotion. Choosing collaborative divorce and mediation with the right attorney is going to help you see the big picture and get you through this extremely difficult time, and prepare you for a future you can look forward to with hope and security.
