Melissa Cefalu, Esq., MBA, MA

08/26/2023

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08/25/2023

If you're having trouble navigating your divorce, child custody, or family-related matter, please reach out and see if we may be able to help you. Cefalu Law navigates your journey with care: more than a case, we're here to support you. www.cefalulaw.com

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Posted by Natasha | January 12, 2024 | Hired Attorney
Excellent Lawyer That Sees You as More than a Case
Ms. Cefalu has been on my case for roughly a year and has taken me into trial (unavoidable in this situation), and has by far been the best attorney I’ve worked with. She’s efficient, always responds to messages promptly, and thorough. She knows the law and the system, and will discuss strategy and options with you when many attorneys just do whatever bills the most or is easiest for them. More importantly, she sees you as a human being. In a very dehumanizing and often broken system, this is priceless!

★★★★★
Posted by Selcuk | July 28, 2022 | Hired Attorney
Excellent communicator, court room litigator and researcher
I hired Melissa's firm to represent me in a very nasty divorce. Melissa was kind, knowledgeable, pleasant and also gave excellent advice. She was very thorough browsing through paperwork, receipts and old documents. She is also knowledgeable in commercial property matters as my divorce involved joint ownership of two residential buildings in Manhattan. She stands tall in court, able to produce accurate and beneficial answers. My story was complex and multi layered over a long span of marriage and she was able to internalize it all. She is also a hard worker. It was not unusual for m to get emails from her late at night and she always kept me in the loop and made me aware of all the steps. I am forever grateful for the representation I received from her. She is highly recommended.

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📍NYC Matrimonial, divorce and family law attorney

Super Lawyers 2021 NY Metro Rising Stars
NAFLA 2021 Top 10 Attorneys Under 40
AVVO Client's Choice, 2021

08/23/2023

Feeling alone in your relationship? Then this is for you. 👇

❤️ A person who loves you will be there to listen to you when you are in need of being heard.

🚫Not yell at you, roll their eyes at you, talk down to you, or dismiss your feelings.

❤️A person who loves you will say kind, and uplifting words to you when you cannot find the words to say about yourself.

🚫Not tell you to get over yourself, belittle you, or make you think that somehow you are being selfish and entitled because you are seeking some positive affirmation from your partner.

❤️A person who loves you will be there to hold you up, cuddle you, physically support you when you are unable to life yourself up.

🚫Not walk out on you while you stumble and fall.

👉A person who seems unnerved at your pain, who seems to maybe, even do better, when you are down,
is someone you should not be in a relationship with.

You deserve to be heard.
You deserve to affirmed.
You deserve to be supported.
You deserve to be loved.

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08/22/2023

Are you currently in an unhappy relationship? Do you feel like you keep dating, but the same relationship patterns seem to emerge despite being with different partners? Then this is for you.

This is your reminder that you have a choice on who you decide to let in your life and who you can keep out.

And in that choice, you have a lot of power— a lot more than you probably realize.

So let’s work on getting you that power back. Getting you back to healthy boundaries. Getting you into healthy relationships.

It doesn’t take much to start. And it doesn’t have to be all at once. Step by step, you’ll get there.

You can do it.

I know you can.

And I can help.

08/14/2023

💔Staying in the Relationship because of What Once Was - But No Longer Is👇

In my practice, I ask clients when they have decided to file for divorce and at what point did they start to feel things started to fall apart.

And for most of them, the answer is usually the same — “a long time ago.”

I then ask them, “What made you stay?”

And the response I overwhelmingly the same— that they remember the days when they were happy, truly happy. And how they have spent all of this time trying to figure out how to get back to that place with their partner. But, unfortunately, they could not find their way.

And there are a number of reasons that relationships deteriorate.

And no matter the cause or the reason, it boils down to this:

You deserve to be happy.
You deserve to be loved.
You deserve to be respected.

And so, if you are finding yourself in a relationship where you spend more time thinking nostalgically about past memories instead of in the present, really take a hard look and ask yourself,

“At this present moment, in this relationship, today, am I happy?”

And if the answer to that question is “No.” then ask yourself,

“When was the last time I was happy, truly happy, in this relationship?”

And I don’t mean for a day. I mean consistent happiness over a period of time in a healthy and supportive relationship.

Sometimes in a relationship, the most challenging questions we have to ask are the ones of ourselves.

Have you ever felt this way? Let’s start a conversation in the comments below. 🙏❤️

08/12/2023

💔 Are you thinking about or going through a divorce right now? Then this is for you. 👇

💔Divorce is a topic that we often shy away from, but today I want to talk about it. Divorce is not just the end of a marriage, it's the end of a dream and the beginning of a new reality. It's a tough decision that no one wants to make, but sometimes it's the only option.

💔Divorce can be a painful and emotional experience, not just for the couple involved, but also for their family and friends. It can leave scars that never seem to heal, but it can also be the start of a new beginning. It's a chance to find happiness and live a life that is fulfilling.

💔To those who have gone through divorce, my heart goes out to you. I know the pain you feel, the loneliness, and the emptiness. But know that you are not alone. There are others who have gone through the same thing and have come out the other side stronger.

💔To those who are going through a divorce, I want you to know that it's okay to feel the way you do. It's okay to cry, to be angry, to feel lost. But remember that this too shall pass. You are strong enough to get through this, and you will come out the other side.

🫶To those who have never experienced divorce, I ask that you don't judge those who have. Divorce is a personal decision that no one takes lightly. Instead, offer your support and understanding. You never know when you might need it yourself.

In the end, divorce is a reminder that life isn't always easy, but it's still worth living. It's a reminder that we can pick ourselves up and start again. 🙏❤️

08/08/2023

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08/07/2023

💕 Understanding Love Languages: The Key to Deeper Connections 💕
⭐️Yes, I am a divorce lawyer.

⭐️Yes, I believe in love and marriage.

⭐️And yes, I recently married my best friend. 🥰

Are you currently in a relationship where you and your significant other struggling to express your love for one another and take your relationship to the next step? This post may help!

Developed by Dr. Gary Chapman, the 5 Love Languages is a theory that suggests that each individual has a primary love language, and understanding these languages can significantly improve our connections with others.

1️⃣ Words of Affirmation: A simple "I love you," a heartfelt compliment or words of encouragement can help your partner’s heart fill with joy and make them feel truly cherished.

2️⃣ Acts of Service: For some, actions speak louder than words. Small acts of kindness like doing the dishes, helping with chores, or preparing a surprise meal can make them feel deeply loved and appreciated.

3️⃣ Receiving Gifts: Gifts aren't just about material things; they represent thoughtfulness and consideration. A meaningful present, no matter how small, can touch the hearts of those whose love language is receiving gifts.

4️⃣ Quality Time: This language is all about undivided attention. Spending quality time with your loved ones, engaging in meaningful conversations, and creating cherished memories together are incredibly important for individuals with this love language.

5️⃣ Physical Touch: Holding hands, hugs, kisses, or a gentle touch on the shoulder can make them feel secure and loved.

What is your love language? Let me know “1,” “2,”, “3,” ,”4”, “5” in the comments below!

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08/04/2023

You or someone someone you know hitting their breaking point right now?

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08/03/2023

🚫 Are You being Needy or Simply Asking to have your Needs Met? When is too much?🚫

There is a difference. What you want in a relationship from your partner to feel loved is okay. But there comes a point that requests for needs to be fulfilled can cross from healthy boundaries to unhealthy boundaries.

To better help you identify this emotion, if you are needy, you will likely feel as if your partner’s efforts are not enough to fulfill your needs.

You might experience what feels like a loss of connection with your partner. In response, you might start to display “protesting” behaviors to try to feel/fix that connection. Protest behaviors might look like this:

🛑threatening to leave your partner
🛑giving your partner the silent treatment
🛑trying to evoke jealousy in your partner
🛑badgering your partner with excessive calls, texts, follow-ups
🛑acting hostile/passive-aggressive towards your partner
🛑manipulating your partner

If you find yourself in this situation, take a step back. Assess and evaluate why you may feel that your partner cannot fill this void. Is what you asking too much? Are there insecurities inside yourself that are being triggered? Past trauma you have not addressed?

If you find your partner is in this situation, ask to have a conversation. Delve deeper into why they might be feeling and reacting this way.

Whichever side you are on, speak with your partner so you can both learn how to move past it.
These are NOT easy conversations, but they are NECESSARY to break the cycle and move forward. 🫂

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07/29/2023

Have you ever felt like you hit rock 🪨 bottom? What did you do to help you through it?

For me, it was reaching out to those closest to me. And I think it was the first time I realized that I had people in my life that truly loved me—unconditionally. It’s bittersweet that it took me to get to that place to realize that. But having that feeling of their love inspired me to keep going. To do better. To be better. And so, I did. And as I keep climbing, that feeling has stayed with me all this time. It’s really quite beautiful. And I will always cherish that my rock bottom led me here.

For those who are hitting rock 🪨 bottom right now…hang in there. I’m here to help. 🫶

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