07/07/2026
In Trinidad we say horn.
In Jamaica they say bun.
In Guyana they say blow.
In Barbados and Saint Lucia they say horn too, Saint Lucians add kone in Kweyol.
Every island has a word for it. And in many of our communities, it is treated like something you laugh about, the subject of calypso, of memes, of rum shop talk. Something you almost expect.
I am not here to judge. I grew up hearing the same jokes.
Here is what I am here to say as your attorney: before July 1, 2026, adultery in Virginia had real legal teeth, and those teeth could bite you even if the affair happened after you and your spouse had already gone your separate ways. A post-separation relationship could still be used to deny someone spousal support entirely.
That changed. As of July 1, adultery must have occurred before the final separation to be used as a grounds for divorce or to affect spousal support.
So if you have been in a new relationship since you and your spouse separated, that relationship can no longer be used against you in a Virginia divorce filing.
The full breakdown is in our latest blog post. Link in bio. And if you have questions, we are here. (844) 640-6100.