05/20/2026
HE WON’T ALWAYS BE THERE TO ASK
My husband handles the finances. I don’t know what I’d do if he goes before me.
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That worry is worth listening to.
If your husband does pass first, just imagine having to carry that worry alongside the grief. The bills don’t stop. The mortgage company doesn’t know your loss.
Make a plan now, while there’s no urgency or pressure. Sit down together. List every bank account, automatic payment, and policy number. Ask your husband to show you where he keeps the deeds and important papers. Then keep it all where your children or a trusted friend can find it too.
This doesn’t have to be a gloomy conversation. It’s about taking care of each other.
Have either of you done any estate planning? Think of it as a map for a hard stretch of road. With the right plan in place, you wouldn’t have to wonder how his property would transfer to you or to whomever he or you would want it to go. Check to see that beneficiary designations are current. An account still listing a deceased parent or an ex-spouse would come as a painful surprise at an already-difficult time.
Good planning can also keep you out of probate court, or at least streamline the process. Probate takes money and time, sometimes months, and ordinary life won’t wait for it to run its course.
When the hard time does come, you may take comfort from knowing you can call us and get answers. That’s what estate planning attorneys are for.
You don’t need to know all the financial details. You just need to know where to find out about them, and that a plan is already in place.
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