Mediation Around The Table, LLC

04/22/2026

Clarity isn't punishment -- it's power.

That's right. I said it. Ignorance is not bliss. This is contrary to the old adage which first appeared in an 18th century poem by Thomas Gray, "Where ignorance is bliss, 'tis folly to be wise." In real life, especially in divorce mediation, I can say with certainty that ignorance rarely brings b

03/18/2026

Why do you think second marriages are so challenging?

As if the 50% failure rate for first marriages isn’t horrible enough, the failure rate of second marriages rises to a staggering 67%. You’d think after one divorce, we’d be better equipped to make a success of the second marriage. So, what’s the deal?Turns out, there are many reasons why the...

02/04/2026

Here are some points to consider.

Many of my divorce mediation clients come back for a tune-up when their children become teenagers. Co-parenting can be more challenging with teens because their issues are different and often complicated. If the parents aren't on the same page, surviving their kids' adolescence can be daunting. W

01/28/2026

Have you ever felt sabotaged?

I wish I would have kept track of the number of divorce mediation clients who've accused each other of sabotaging the relationship, often masking their inner fear of rejection. As I start my 15th year (!!) as a divorce and family mediator, I'm able to share several common threads of sabotage that m

01/21/2026

Do you feel valued?

In divorce mediation, the concept of value occurs frequently. Most often, it has to do with money, as in "my money pays the mortgage," or "the money in my 401K was deducted from my paycheck." I often have to patiently explain that Nevada is considered a community property state, so there generall

01/14/2026

Do you do both?

There's a significant difference, don't you think? I know a guy who complained about practically everything, to the point where being with him often became exhausting. In spite of denying that his intention was to blame, his complaints centered around the problem rather than the solution. To me

12/03/2025

Accepting the evolution of parenting styles.

This is a story about how generations differ and evolve, especially when it comes to child-rearing. And this is also a story about love. Let me introduce you to Sally, a retired elementary school teacher who frequently helps out her daughter, Ashley, by babysitting for Ashley’s baby. (I’m not go

11/26/2025

Be honest. Are you?

I recently helped a divorced couple to modify their Parenting Plan. What I observed, practically from the very beginning, was that the mom had a passive-aggressive style of communication, and it led to the dad’s confusion rather than his understanding. Here are some examples of what she did and/or

10/15/2025

Are you ready to regain some perspective?

While concentrating on the business of getting through each day, taking good care of my divorce mediation clients and doing my best to take care of myself, I sometimes get lost in the weeds with no understanding of how I landed there. I know I'm not the only one who worries about things that don’t...

08/08/2025

I recently had the privilege of being a guest on the Divorce Support Collective podcast If you have an extra 20 minutes, and are contemplating divorce (or know someone who is), please click on the link to watch.

https://youtu.be/fTtmTI0Bwm8