06/09/2026
Borrowed from another page, but very relevant. Please consider:
Judges are becoming less keen to hear every single flaw about the other parent during child arrangement cases.
Parents come to court with pages of complaints about what the other parent has done wrong, expecting the judge to focus on every argument, disagreement, and frustration that has built up over the years.
But the reality is that judges are increasingly asking a different question:
“What does this have to do with the child?”
The court’s job is not to decide who was the better partner, who caused the relationship breakdown, or who has the longest list of grievances.
The court wants to know what arrangements are in the child’s best interests.
So if you’re preparing for a child arrangements case, be careful not to make it all about the other parent.
Instead, focus on:
Your child’s needs
Your child’s routine
Your child’s relationship with each parent
What arrangement will help your child thrive
The parents who often come across best in court are not the ones who spend all their time criticising the other parent.
They’re the ones who can keep bringing the conversation back to their child.
Because that’s exactly where the judge’s focus will be.