03/01/2026
Court-mandated phone calls between a child and a non-custodial parent are designed to maintain connection, especially for younger children. But what happens when a kid refuses to talk? The custodial parent’s treatment of a child’s refusal is critically important.
Yes, something as simple as missed FaceTime calls can be exploited in litigation.
Additionally, if you are the parent being refused calls, your treatment of the situation warrants care and consideration, too.
Here’s more on the topi below. Also, please feel free to reach out to us to discuss further. Whatever you do: don’t view social media posts on tough family law topicw as black-and-white legal advice. They’re not. They’re guideposts and suggestions for you as you navigate the brutal waters of family law litigation.
You're not alienating your child by refusing to force a phone call.
You're teaching them autonomy.
There's a difference between encouraging contact and coercing a conversation.
Family court expects you to make calls available, not to physically force a child to perform for the other parent.
If your ex is threatening contempt because your 8-year-old didn't want to FaceTime for 20 minutes on a Tuesday night, that's about control. Not connection.
Here's what compliance actually looks like:
👉 The call was offered
👉 The child had access
👉 You didn't interfere
That's it.
The length of the call? Irrelevant.
Whether they said goodnight twice? Irrelevant.
Your ex's disappointment? Not your responsibility.
Courts track patterns, not feelings.
If you're being accused of withholding calls, document this:
• Date and time of the call
• Was access provided? Yes or no.
• Did the child disengage naturally?
No emotional commentary. No motives. Just behavior.
And if your child is whispering "I can't really talk right now" when they're at the other parent's house, respect that. You're not going to win by forcing connection. You're going to win by staying regulated, child-focused, and documented.
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