Oklahoma Fathers and Families

10/06/2016

Anonymous

I found out that Oklahoma statue title 43. Section 109.6 forces schools, and medical professionals to give same documents available to the custodial to the noncustodial.

This law is not based on federal funding so it applies to all schools. Thanks!

09/30/2016

Excessive child support orders are the result in part of an archaic way of thinking, namely, that the wellbeing of the child is solely bound up in the wellbeing of the custodial parent and her home. And that the circumstances of the non-custodial parent matter little or not at all to the wellbeing of the child. Social science over the past 30 years has thoroughly repudiated this concept.

When the amount of child support constitutes a windfall to the recipient, it creates active resistance to shared parenting so as to obtain a sole custody decision and the money that goes with it.

One should not underestimate this dynamic in present-day Child Support Practices. Multiple studies have shown that shared parenting is the arrangement that children most desire and in which they do best, so Guidelines that incentivize battles for sole custody harm children.

In poor and middle class families, excessive child support causes the non-custodial parent to live in poverty or near-poverty. Thus, the child divides her time between a well-appointed home and an impoverished one.

The existing Guidelines are also bad for children because they diminish parenting time by the non-custodial parent. In many cases, the non-custodial parent finds that the only lodgings they can afford are quite distant from where the children are living.

Much time is then spent by both the non-custodial parent and the child in commuting. Moreover, the non-custodial parent is frequently forced to work two or three jobs, or substantial overtime, simply to survive in the face of an excessive child support order combined with the effects of taxation.
http://www.topix.com/forum/city/union-city-tn/TSRT7H0G9SRD1HGRC

09/29/2016

Most of the time the other parent goes out of their way to not share information about your kids.

This even goes as far as school records.

As long as there is nothing legally stating otherwise, the school must provide you with the information requested.

Talk to the principle and explain the FERPA guidelines.

~Steve

http://www2.ed.gov/policy/gen/guid/fpco/ferpa/index.html

Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) Home Page.

09/26/2016

09/19/2016

Ode to Dads
Written by, Andi
ANYTHING SEPERATED MOMS CAN DO…
Separated moms can now be virtually assured that they will maintain custody of their children regardless of parenting skills while Dad struggles to retain his…
Teaching our children injustice

Separated moms can now dictate when, how, why and even IF Dad is allowed to see our children…
Teaching our children the value of control

Separated moms can now get Dad to pay for all past and present “evil deeds” by denying access to Dad…
Teaching our children revenge

Separated moms can now demand swift and sure payment from the government and Dad for taking care of our children while they themselves are exempt from any form of governed responsibility…
Teaching our children irresponsibility

Separated moms can now live with another man to supplement their income – as long as the government doesn’t know…
Teaching our children deceit

Separated moms can now allow our children to live with their father – as long as they keep receiving government support and support from the dad…
Teaching our children greed

Is this, separated Mom, really what you want to teach your children?

SEPARATED DADS CAN DO BETTER
Separated Dads can now fight in court for years, spending thousands of dollars just to see their children…
Teaching our children determination

Separated Dads can now drop all their plans and race to see their children when Mom ‘allows’ them too…
Teaching our children loyalty

Separated Dads can now ‘wait out the storm’ but always be there for their children when he is allowed to be…
Teaching our children patience

Separated Dads can now live in a basement apartment and work two jobs to make certain his support payments are paid…
Teaching our children responsibility

Separated Dads can now continue working two jobs, knowing that Mom’s income is supplemented by another person’s, while his financial responsibilities remain the same…
Teaching our children self-sacrifice

Separated Dads can now keep our children under their roof and still pay support to Mom…
Teaching our children the value of love – not money

Separated Dads can now listen to the horrible stories, through the mouths of our children, that Mom told them about Dad and say, ‘Don’t worry, Mom is just mad at Dad. All that matters is that I love you and will help you in whatever way I can whenever you need me.’
Teaching our children the true meaning of true love

This… separated Dad, whether you are ever present or not, is your job. And whether it be today, or years from now, your children will love you and respect you for the pain, heartache and self–sacrifice that you endured for them. Be strong and don’t give up.

09/13/2016

Every second Tuesday of the month.
Same time, same place.

Let's get together off Facebook to discuss ideas and information.

~Steve

08/20/2016

It's all about control.
Down to every detail.
~Steve

08/20/2016

The courts don't see it that way.

08/20/2016

The longer they drag it out, the more they make.