05/24/2026
It Cost Them Everything: Remembering the Fallen on Memorial Day
The death toll of the Civil War was so high, it's difficult for us to imagine today. More than 2% of the U.S. population perished in just four years of conflict.1
By comparison to today's population, that would be like losing nearly 7 million soldiers. And that doesn't include those who were maimed or suffered deep psychological damage. It was a bitter war that left no family untouched.
Immediately after the Civil War ended, people, particularly women, would go and lay flowers on the graves of the dead. One of the most notable of these occasions was in 1865 when a large procession was held in Charleston, SC, to commemorate the lives of Union soldiers who had died in a makeshift prisoner of war camp at the local racecourse. Thousands of black Americans, many of whom had been enslaved months earlier, decorated the mass grave with baskets of flowers, wreaths, and crosses.2
In 1868 these spontaneous, local events led to the creation of a national day of commemoration to be observed each year on May 30. It was called "Decoration Day."
According to the New York Times, as the day evolved to honor all troops who had fallen while serving their country, Americans began referring to the observance as "Memorial Day." An NYT article from May 31, 1870 noted that, aside from Independence Day, there was "no day that calls out the patriotic feelings of our people more than 'Memorial Day.'"
But it wasn't until almost a hundred years later that Congress finally renamed the day Memorial Day. A few years after that it was moved from May 30 to the last Monday of the month to make a long weekend and give people the opportunity to gather.
If you sometimes get the purpose of Memorial Day mixed up with that of Veterans Day (November 11), you're not alone. Many people think that both days are for honoring those who served in the military. But if you just think back to the origins of Memorial Day, laying flowers on graves, it's easier to remember that it's specifically to remember those who have fallen in war.
This Memorial Day we hope you have the chance to get together with family and friends and maybe fire up the barbecue. As you enjoy this unofficial "first day of summer," take a moment to pause and remember those who gave their last full measure of devotion while serving our country.