03/09/2025
***LONG POST ALERT***
I woke up this morning realizing it was International Women's Day. I saw posts most of the day giving a "shout out" to women, though I could not really gather the words to describe the feelings I had about today.
So, after much thought, plenty of cups of both hot and iced coffee, a fun four year old birthday party, and a hot shower, here are my thoughts:
Every day I wake up striving to be my best, as a mother, an attorney, a daughter, a sister, a cousin, a niece, and a friend. As much as I would love to believe that I am meeting my goal, I know it is not possible. Why???!! Because I am not perfect.
Most days, you could probably poll the numerous people that I have around me, for one reason or another, and you could find something to complain about. Why???!! Because I am not perfect.
When someone wears a hat, so much responsibilities come with it. So many of us, both men and women, wear more than one hat. Most of us feel overwhelmed at least one time a day; yet, we hardly ever show grace. We EXPECT perfection.
Today, more than any day, I saw people expecting the world from me for one of my hats, when today, a Saturday, my hat should be being a mom. Am I complaining??? Absolutely not, I try to just switch hats. I give my best effort to help anyone and everyone while still being a loving, fun, and thoughtful mother.
Also today, I learned that no matter how much I do, no matter how much I try, there will always be someone complaining. Crazy enough, I still do not give up. I still show up. And I still give it my best. Why???!!! Because I care.
Today I saw people sharing the desire to support this special day for women. This day is to symbolize the fight that the generations before us fought so hard to give. For me, it is huge and has such deep meaning.
How many women 10, 20, 50, 100, 200, or even 300 years ago would ever think that a woman like little ole me would be able to have a business and support a family? Likely none. I am so thankful for the opportunity to provide a wonderful, blessed, life for me and Aslynn.
I say all that to say, I saw a ton of people, both men and WOMEN, posting about appreciating women, but I also saw the other side of them. The side that talks down to women around them. The side that is non-supportive of women, behind their back but smiles to their face. The side that gossips about shortcomings or inaccurate facts. The side that is jealous. The side that is ungrateful.
The side that is abusive. The side that will judge before every attempting to gather facts. The side that is purely evil.
Not only do we have so many men not supporting women like they should but there are an overwhelming population of women who absolutely want to destroy other women. We have to do better.
I hope today, at some point, you not just post a saying about supporting women. I hope that you reflect on your daily actions to evaluate if they are commensurate with supporting women. Do you gossip about a woman trying her best every day? Do you shop at a woman's store that you know could truly use the business? Do you listen, or just hear, that lady friend at her wits end? Do you tell the women around you that you appreciate who they are, what they do, and how they bring good to your life? Do you hold women accountable for the things that they do when they are not healthy?
We are all so quick to simply post or share things with zero actual impact on our life. Please do not let today just pass as one of those things. Think about those women that have impacted you in your life and share a story about them. We all fall short sometimes, so give grace to those ladies that are struggling. But for goodness sake, let's try to let go of the toxic desires to tear women down, for no reason.
To the women of this earth, I truly appreciate what you have done for us as human beings. For those of us falling short, keep that chin up and keep trying. For the toxic ones in the back, one day I will tag you.... 🤣stay tuned.
