21/06/2026
Last month a father walked into our office with a folder. Inside: M-Pesa statements, school fees receipts , report cards and bus tickets from Kisumu to Kericho... Three years of school runs. But court papers served upon him still called him a “visitor”. He wasn’t angry. He was tired. He just wanted orders that matched the work he was already doing in a verbal co-parenting arrangement with his ex-wife.
That’s most of the fathers we meet.You won’t find them on posters. They’re the ones updating a will.... Not because they’re sick. Because “providing” isn’t just today’s shopping. It’s making sure your boys don’t fight over land if you’re not around.
The law has a phrase for it: “parental responsibility”.
Most dads we meet have a warmer one: showing up.
Showing up is school fees. Hospital ERs at 2am. Attending school events. Teaching your son how to ride a bike. Teaching your daughter how to sign her name properly. It’s also guardianship. It’s inheritance. It’s making sure your family’s future doesn’t fall apart when life changes.
And provision... provision isn’t only money.
Sometimes it’s a written parenting plan.
Sometimes it’s a simple will. Sometimes it is as simple as updating your records at work or at SHA....
Child maintenance isn’t a punishment. It’s structure. So kids stay stable when parents can’t be in the same house.
To every dad, stepdad, grandfather, uncle stepping in... we see it.
The weight no one claps for. The decisions made in silence. The consistency that builds families, not just houses.
If by chance you get into a messy situation with multiple women of if you break up with an Essie , a Joyce or a Matipa your responsibility to your children does not end after all people break up but you do not break up with your children........you simply man up and structure a suitable co-parenting agreement that combines both financial responsibility with physical and emotional presence.
Your role matters.....at home , at school , at hospitals , in church , in court and everywhere in between. Your actions truly determine the kind of parents your children will make in the future.
If you’re a figuring out custody, guardianship, or how to protect what you’ve built visit any law firm near you and make a plan that fits your family.
Happy Father’s Day. We honor you 🙏
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