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29/05/2026

If your husband made a divorce application as a sole applicant, and you are the respondent, you can apply for the final order if he fails to do it. You just have to wait three months from the date he could have applied. The process is simple and on the gov.uk website- please don’t run up legal costs on this as you don’t need to.

29/05/2026

I hope this helps!

27/05/2026

If you’re both in equivalent financial positions then yes, this works.

The issue is that for many families this isn’t their reality. When couples have children often they make choices which financially disadvantage the main caregiver. If you have two people in a 20 year relationship who have three children and one of them gives up their job to look after the children because the cost of childcare is more than they net salary, is it fair that when the relationship ends one parent will be able to financially support themselves and the other will not?

That’s the tough question the law currently just doesn’t address…

25/05/2026

Hope this is helpful!

22/05/2026

Sadly not- you still need a lawyer to draw up a consent order, Form A and D81 with all your financial information, so a Family Judge can then look at your financial situation and decide whether a clean break is legally fair to you both

19/05/2026

Family law is a living breathing organism that is supposed to reflect our times…but it can be slow to catch up…but there is always more to do. The present controversy is that much more needs to be done to protect the rights of separating cohabitees…

15/05/2026

OK, so you’ve had some legal advice and you’re agreed on everything except the pensions. Depending on the value and type of pensions you may need a pension expert to work out the value of the pension and how fairly to divide it. A family lawyer should be able to tell you whether that is needed and if so instruct a pensions expert for you and for a fixed fee. Once you are agreed on how the pension should be divided, you’ll need a solicitor to draw up the financial order, form A, D81 and Forms P and P1 (which relate to the pension sharing element). You should get a fixed fee for this. On timescales, our turnaround is 2 weeks but we can do it quicker if needed. So this shouldn’t take long- the main thing is ensuring you get proper advice on the pensions before you finalise your deal.

13/05/2026

Transferring a property between you does not resolve your financial claims and they will remain open until a judge approves a financial consent order resolving them. So this means looking at everything, not just property, but income, debts and pension too, and ensuring that in the round the division is fair and meets your needs.

Then once you have that financial consent order not only is there a fair division of what you have, you’re protected from any claims in the future over your future financial resources which you may accrue.

12/05/2026

Our mantras for an amicable divorce…

When you’re getting divorced, you can be overwhelmed with advice (all well-meaning, but too much to process) 🤯So here’s ...
11/05/2026

When you’re getting divorced, you can be overwhelmed with advice (all well-meaning, but too much to process) 🤯

So here’s our top three tips for an amicable divorce:

1. Don’t rush. Divorce is, more than anything, an emotional journey. Recognise that one of you may find this harder than the other. Go at their pace, making time for the emotional discussions. Don’t rush to lawyers. Get emotional support (together or apart) if you need it. Unless your safety is at risk or there is an emergency, you can wait to see lawyers until you have both processed the fact that the relationship is ending, and are ready to look forward.

2. Get into the right mindset. By this we mean, look at your situation the way a family judge would. When it comes to the arrangements for your children, that means asking what is in their best interests. And when it comes to your finances, it means reaching an agreement which is fair to you both. If your approach is to secure the best-case scenario for one of you (to the detriment of your spouse), you’re likely to end up in a long and expensive adversarial process where nobody wins.

3. Focus on the future. Again- it’s what a family judge will do. Try not to re-open old wounds. Very successful relationships can have a shelf life, and that’s OK. Now we need to focus on the future: meeting both your needs and ensuring you are in the best position you can be to enjoy the adventures which lie ahead 🙌

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