Lottie - Mums Court Support

28/05/2026

I’ll go first… I used to struggle so much with my own family court proceedings (multiple, separate cases), until I learned how to approach statements, submissions, cross-examination, writing comms to my abusive exes and presenting my case to the court.

Now, I am able to approach proceedings with confidence, clarity and calm.

And I can help you do the same. Check out my link in bio 💜

28/05/2026

Struggling to write those messages? My ‘Comms To Ex’ bundles might be exactly what you need!

I support women with drafting calm, clear and child-focused communications.

Check out my website via my link in bio. ‘I’ve got you’ my fellow UK mummas 🤍

26/05/2026

Mums, I got you 💜 I support with:
• drafting communications (to abusive exes, professionals)
• drafting statements, schedules of allegations and more
• emotional support
• emotional support & empowerment during child arrangements and non-molestation order proceedings
• court strategy & preparation
• evidence organisation
• and so much more

Get in touch to organise your free 30min initial chat with me today 🤍💜

25/05/2026

Everyone will hear this song differently, especially male and female victims of abuse. So for those rebuilding after an abusive and controlling relationship, I see you 🤍

I specifically support mums facing abuse in child arrangements and non-molestation proceedings. If that’s you, I’ve got you 💜🤍

17/05/2026

It’s not always ‘physical’ 😓 patterns of coercive control include so much more than, but sometimes zero, physical violence 🤍

11/05/2026

I help mums prepare for safeguarding calls, organise their thoughts, understand reports/orders and navigate proceedings calmly and clearly.

I also offer a free 30-minute initial chat 🤍💜

11/05/2026

CAFCASS SAFEGUARDING CALLS 🤍
(And how not to panic)

I see so many mums terrified about CAFCASS safeguarding calls, but honestly, it’s a very normal part of child law proceedings.

CAFCASS are there to help the court to understand:
- any safeguarding concerns
- how the children are doing and what might impact them (or already has)
- what arrangements may be safest moving forwards.

Before the first hearing, they’ll usually complete police/social services checks for any records of both parents,l and have a short phone call with you both to understand both of your ‘positions’.

Safeguarding calls are NOT:
❌ a trial
❌ a final decision
❌ a “who’s telling the truth” or an investigation.

It’s simply an early step to identify any safeguarding issues.

They’ll usually ask about the following kinds of things:
- the children’s routines and needs
- current arrangements
- any concerns (domestic abuse, substance misuse, mental health, police involvement etc)
- what you feel is best for the children moving forwards.

So below are a few little tips that have helped me and the hundreds of other mothers I’ve supported over the years:
🤍 Stay child-focused
🤍 Stay calm, factual and structured
🤍 Don’t minimise serious concerns
🤍 Make brief bullet-point notes or “talking points” before the call if you’re nervous, to help you stay on track and to remember all the points you need to raise.

And please remember this as well:
You do NOT need to sound like a solicitor. You are a parent, not a legal professional. It’s completely ok to be nervous and unsure. Court proceedings are ‘foreign’ to many people. The court and Cafcass know this, and expect that many of us will be nervous and worried about the unknown.

Also, if there has been domestic abuse, coercive control, harassment, stalking or potentially fatal crimes like non-fatal strangulation, please do not downplay these. Patterns of behaviour matter hugely in family court proceedings.

To summarise, the safeguarding call and letter is only one part of proceedings. In the end, the judge/s make decisions — not CAFCASS 🤍

I help mums prepare for safeguarding calls, understand reports/orders and organise their thoughts calmly and clearly throughout proceedings. I help with drafting statements, communications to professionals, and even your ex.

I also offer phone calls for emotional support and practical guidance.

I also offer a free 30-minute initial chat so don’t hesitate to reach out 🤍

09/05/2026

For the mothers who feel like the world is falling under their feet, yet somehow have the strength to stay upright through the chaos… simply for your kids… I see you. I hear your worries. I feel your struggle. I know the chaos… That is all 🤍😘

Some days motherhood feels incredibly heavy in ways I could never fully explain to anyone, because life does not pause when your heart is overwhelmed or when you’re quietly carrying stress that follows you into the middle of the night, and yet your children still look at you with complete trust in their eyes like you can fix anything, answer everything, and somehow make the whole world feel safe for them, and honestly that kind of responsibility can feel terrifying when you’re struggling silently behind the scenes, trying to hold yourself together while also protecting their happiness at the same time, but even on the hardest days, there’s something so grounding about hearing my child call for me, because no matter how shaken I feel inside, motherhood keeps reminding me that love still has to show up anyway 🥺

06/05/2026

These feelings are normal when having to communicate with those who’ve hurt us or our children. But I take the worry, panic and anxiety, and help you turn that into calm, structured communications so you can feel in control again 💜🤍

14/04/2026

Abuse can change the way you see yourself… what you expect, what you feel you deserve, what feels “normal”.

A lot of women end up feeling like wanting love, care, or softness is asking for too much or is ‘wrong’. But it isn’t.

It’s not unrealistic; that’s the bare minimum 🤍

My first dance with my new husband 🥰

14/04/2026

As a Court Empowerment Companion, I support mums👇:

💜 drafting statements (reviewing or from scratch with your notes)
💜 drafting comms to your ex
💜 drafting comms to professionals
💜 sorting evidence/‘exhibits’
💜 phone support
💜 and more

From a mum who ‘gets it’, to another 🤍

(child law and non-molestation proceedings only)

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*I am not a solicitor and cannot provide legal advice