14/08/2025
Tomorrow marks a turning point at Wellingborough Family Court.
For the first time, families attending court will have real-time access to trained mediators through the new Wellingborough Family Court Mediation Pilot and we’re proud to be part of it.
I’ll be taking the lead on the ground for our mediation team as we begin this important work, supporting families directly at court during what can be an incredibly difficult and emotionally charged time.
Too often, separating parents come to court believing it's their only option. But what many don’t realise is this:
No judge can order you to co-parent well.
No legal ruling can rebuild trust or teach you how to communicate.
But mediation can.
Family mediation supports cooperative, child-focused decision-making, not just for today but for the years of parenting still to come.
It helps parents move from blame to problem-solving
It strengthens emotional regulation and respectful communication
And most importantly, it protects children from the long-term harm caused by chronic conflict
Research shows that it’s not separation that hurts children, it’s the exposure to unresolved parental conflict.
“Conflict between parents, not divorce itself, predicts poor outcomes for children, including anxiety, low self-esteem, and behavioural issues.” (EIF, 2016; Harvard Center on the Developing Child)
The Vélez et al. (2011) longitudinal study found that where parents engaged in communication-focused support post-separation, children experienced better coping skills and reduced emotional distress even six years later.
Mediation doesn't just resolve the immediate dispute, it builds long-term resilience in children by supporting warmth, consistency and safe adult relationships.
This pilot is about more than offering a free service.
It’s about breaking cycles of conflict.
It’s about treating families with humanity, not hostility.
It’s about making space for change, even at the courtroom door.
It’s not too late to choose a better way.