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04/10/2026

When it comes to resources for tools and advice for how to resolve or manage conflict, Bill Eddy is the bee's knees. Here is one of his many articles, chalk-full of great tips for those who are separating. Setting Limits in Divorce and Divorce Court - High Conflict Institute

Setting Limits in Divorce and Divorce Court © 2026 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. January each year appears to be divorce month. Unhappy couples who have stayed together to get through the holidays for their kids’ sake finally decide it is time to let go. On the other hand, sometimes it is behavior aro...

03/29/2026

I attended the annual CCLA Family Law Institute and the complexities of the law cannot be underestimated. Independent legal advice is always recommended, even in a mediation process, because you don't know what you don't know.

03/20/2026

Raquel Beesley has received her certificate as a qualified Child Inclusive Family Mediator. Child Inclusive Mediation gives kids a voice, not a choice, in the process when planning for the family's next stage in two homes. It's a great way to ensure that your decisions are child-focussed.

Why Hearing the Child Without Harm Requires Safeguarding, Child Development Literacy and Real Containment A note on child inclusive practice This article is written from a firmly child inclusive position. Children’s voices matter. They deserve to be heard, understood and taken seriously in decisio...

07/22/2025

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02/19/2025

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01/13/2025

WHY DIVORCE MATTERS

You don’t necessarily need to get divorced after you separate. You could resolve the corollary issues (e.g. the parenting plan, child and spousal support, equalization of net family property, etc.) in a separation agreement, but remain legally married. But there is a difference between being separated and divorced. Here’s why it might matter to you:

1. Limitation Periods: A married spouse has 2 years from the date of divorce, or 6 years from the date of separation, whichever is sooner, to file a claim for equalization of net family property if the issue is not resolved.

2. Medical and Dental Benefits: Most extended health benefits allow separated but married spouses to remain on an employee’s plan. Once you are divorced, you lose access to these benefits.

3. Survivor’s Benefits on Pension Plans: If you are married, you may have a right to survivor’s benefits on your spouse’s pension plan (depending on the terms of the plan), unless the issue is resolved by agreement or court order in such a way that you have released your claim to these benefits. For most pension plans, a divorced spouse has no claim to a survivor’s benefit. For some pensions, e.g. HOOPP, the spouse you are married to at the time of retirement is the spouse who is entitled to the survivor’s benefit, unless there is an explicit release of these benefits in a separation agreement. The implications of divorce on survivor’s benefits is dependent on the terms of the plan, but this is something to consider.

4. CPP Survivor’s Pension: If you are married at the time of death, your married spouse is entitled to your CPP survivor’s pension. If you are married to one person and living common-law with someone else, CPP might divide the pension between your married spouse and your common-law spouse.

5. Emotional Closure: Some people want to get divorced in order to bring a feeling of emotional closure to their lives.

6. Dating: Some people like to be able to “market” themselves as divorced when they enter the dating scene, as opposed to just separated.

7. Remarriage: If you want to get married again, you need a marriage license. To get a marriage license, you can’t be still married to someone else. You will need a Divorce Certificate when you apply for the license.

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09/12/2024

09/11/2024

Did you know that under the Succession Law Reform Act, if a person dies intestate (aka without a will), only a married spouse may inherit? This restriction does not apply to the support of dependents. Common law is not the same as marriage in many ways, especially with respect to property rights.

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05/09/2024

Badmouthing an Ex on social media has legal and financial consequences.

Throughout the ten years post separation, the wife had taken to Facebook with a smear campaign against the husband.