Vacca Associates Family Checks 'n Balances

08/24/2026

To those of you who were patient enough to watch this video when I didn't have it corrected for YouTube, thank you!

But, here is the link for the YT video where everything is set up correctly so you can watch without having to look sideways (haha).

08/21/2026

Just a quick video on a couple of ideas to help those experiencing early short term memory loss or confusion.

08/12/2026

Grief and Loss -- How do you cope?

Grief and loss are a part of life. As we provide care to our loved ones, somewhere inside of us knows there will be a point at which the caregiving ends because our loved one has passed.

I have not been posting due to dealing with the grief and loss of 3 clients all within weeks of one another. I have the responsibility of handling all the details with hospice, funeral homes, assisted living facilities, out-of-area family members, friends -- you name it, the list is long.

Plus, I have had to deal with my own personal feelings of grief and loss as these clients have been with me for a number of years, I have not only been engaged with them but with their caregivers at the facilities, their doctors and nurses, their family members and friends, and fellow residents at the facilities. It's a lot to deal with and reflect on as I don't just lose my client but I lose many other relationships.

My question to you -- how have you dealt with grief and loss in your lifetime? How are you preparing yourself for when your loved one passes?

Offer up your thoughts and insights so all of us can learn how best to handle this major transition in life.

If you haven't done so yet, please join my free Skool community...https://www.skool.com/thefamilycarecompass/about. Be part of the ongoing conversation on a wide range of issues that impact being a caregiver.

Thanks! Hope all is well with you!

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07/02/2026

To all my families, friends and neighbors.....

06/24/2026

I learned so much about notary services through interviewing Cynthia, who is a mobile notary in SoCal.

This is well worth the time to watch it (remember, you can change the playback speed to 1.5 or even 2.0 if you like)

Let me know what you found interesting about notary services that you didn't know before.

This is a great conversation about what notary services are really ...

06/21/2026

To all great men who have been a Dad, protector, provider, cheerleader, mentor, guide, and so much more....

06/12/2026

Ok...this is a bit of a rant (full disclosure).

My doc wants to reduce the dosage of one of my medications (I mean, I only take 2 to begin with...thank God!). I have 5 mg tablets right now that I have to cut in half, but he wants me to go to 2.5 mg tablets that I will cut in half.

Make note: I can't take a 5 mg tiny little tablet and cut it into fours as it would destroy the tablet and I would be trying to take crumbs of medication every day. Hold onto the picture.

So, the new order gets sent to my pharmacy and I hear nothing back from them. A week goes by, and I decide I better check in with them.

I am told my insurance denied the order. What???

So, I am finally slowing down and reaching out to request a redetermination for the lower dosage pills.

May I say after filling out the redetermination form online that.... how in the h*ll do these companies think people are going to be able to fill out the form, exactly as needed, before you can hit the 'submit' button, when there are...
> restrictions on "special characters" (commas???)
> you need your doc's fax number (really?? do you know every doctor's office fax number?)
> you need your member insurance number (which you can't tell if it's an "8" or "0" because the font is so small and the ink blurs it on the plastic card)

This is why I will never be able to retire from my work as a case manager. This is why my patients/clients get freaky when I say I am leaving town for a week vacay and they immediately have to note the day and hour I am returning.

This is why the need for advocates for people who can't do this themselves, figure it out, because it's damn frustrating and confusing even for a case manager, and let's not go there about --- well, just call them!! Really??

Can we talk about the stupid 'phone trees' that answer the phones for just about any company, doctor's office, pharmacy, etc etc etc?
OK, I'm done and I rest my case.

I will never retire because the system(s) of not only healthcare but just about everything has made it near impossible for vulnerable people to figure it out on their own and get the help and support they need and deserve.

Just a rant.

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06/08/2026

Here's a brief video on an eye disease or condition that impacted me for a second time.

Ever heard of MGD? Me neither! Watch the video and learn more about this condition that impacts 70% of people over the age 60.

Ever heard of MGD - Meibomian Gland Dsyfunction? Me neither! But,...

05/23/2026

To all my Facebook family and friends...Happy Memorial Weekend.

Remember that freedom is not free. Many have sacrificed all so we have the opportunity to celebrate the 250th anniversary of our country.


(Photo credit: Tanner Ross on Unsplash)

05/21/2026

Here's my latest video about what an ethical will is, why and how you would prepare one and do you need one.

Please feel free to leave any comments or questions. Let me know what you think about an ethical will.

Most of us know what a will and last testament is but have you heard of an ethical will? Ethical wills have been around for thousands of years. It is a way...