07/10/2026
Trigger warning – Sexual Assault
Let’s go back to law school.
What is consent?
“She didn’t say no.”
“She came back to my room.”
“We’d been drinking.”
“We’d done it before.”
“I thought she was okay with it.”
But, did she consent? Or did he?
Consent is not something you simply assume.
Silence is not consent.
Consent yesterday is not consent today.
Consent to one thing is not necessarily consent to another.
And being drunk does not make the question disappear, or give an excuse.
Perhaps the simplest question is this - if you are not sure you have consent — what are you doing?
This is a conversation we need to have with our sons and our daughters.
Not after something has happened.
Before.
Because getting consent wrong can change two lives forever.
And there is another uncomfortable truth.
Once an allegation of sexual assault is made, public opinion can move almost instantly from allegation to guilt. Consider the Cornell 7, currently there are only allegations.
Social media doesn’t have a burden of proof, it doesn’t hear the evidence, it it doesn’t wait for a court.
That doesn’t mean we don’t listen to allegations.
We should.
But listening to an allegation and deciding someone is guilty are not the same thing.
Consent matters.