05/06/2026
Another form of ladder holding, or supporting our colleagues, can be helping them when they seem to have a different ladder to other people. Some people are given a more complete ladder due to their connections, their upbringing, or just dumb luck.
I was just discussing with hubby that I had watched a reel about Ken Jennings and Brandon Sanderson (Jeopardy guy and prolific fantasy writer) being flat mates in college, and Ken was joking about how initially he thought, well at least I am the second nerdiest person in the apartment. In the end, he was the second most successful person in the apartment. He commented that Brandon is doing so well for himself he now has his own jet.
I said to my husband this is not just a funny anecdote, but the reality of success. Some people are better connected. What connections helped these two? I have no idea. But I am 200% sure that it is not an accident that two college flat mates reached such success when in reality there are a lot of really clever writers, speakers or performers out there. Was it their families that knew enough to get them into a great college, was it connections at the college itself, was it what they were taught at that college, was it something learned before college but learned by most people who do indeed get into that quality of college? Brandon Sanderson was a biochemisty major who swapped to English Literature, for most people that would be a questionable move unless they wanted to teach. Ken Jennings also spoke about a particular job that Brandon had in college that was a night shift, so he had hours to write. There were a lot of parts that went into this successful whole.
When we have success, when we figure out the way to climb, we can help others by telling them about our ladder. We can help them with their incomplete ladder, and then yes hold it and cheer them on as they climb it. We don't have to drag them up. We don't have to check in with them every day or every week. Sometimes it really is as simple as explaining what rung is missing, and where to find it. We all have people in our lives who provide this for us. I hate to name people, cause I am excluding others and I have been the benefactor of so much help, but I have been blessed by so many people who have done this for me. I just wanted to encourage others to do the same.